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Honey, a woman believes what she wants to. Then some of them just don't care. If its any consolation men get theirs eventually.

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Originally posted by ShugaPush:
Honey, a woman believes what she wants to. Then some of them just don't care. If its any consolation men get theirs eventually.

....as do women.

No. My momma always said the truth comes to light eventually. And I have learned that is true. With the internet etc. that makes it even easier for people to find out anything they want. Problem is we have women and men who dont care.

This is the story: I have a friend (grown woman, mid fifties) who met a man through another acquaintance. He was a "businessman" locally. He took her out to restaurants, to picnics, bought her stuff, took her around his friends, even went to her family functions. Then, the person who introduced them to start with let it drop that his "wife" was a real witch. HUH?!!!! They weren't even separated. He had kids, the whole thing.

I'm just wondering how in the world a person as savvy and smart as my friend is could miss the signs? Are there signs?

How much time did he spend looking at his watch when he was with her? Was he 'protective' of his cell phone? Did he have a 'cheater mark' where his wedding band should have been?

I don't know. Right now she's in that "he done me wrong" frame of mind. But one has to wonder if she just saw what she wanted to see. I have to give it to her though, she dropped his butt pronto.

I know of a similar situation back in the late 90s. A married loser in his early 20s meets a girl who is a senior at a local high school. They begin "dating". He even goes to the prom with her and has a candid picture in the high school yearbook not to mention the pics Im sure her parents bought...

I'm just hoping she gets through this "he done me wrong" thing soon. I mean, if I am starting to wonder just how much she knew, surely people that don't adore her will think worse.

I'm trying to keep the faith, though.

Many years ago, when I was in college the first time, I met a guy that was seemingly crazy for me. I liked his best friend--go figure. No, he wasn't married, but he wanted me to meet his mom. We had dinner with her and her boyfriend at the Tourway. I assumed she was a widow because he told me his dad was dead; actually they had divorced some time before. This was the only time I met either of them until...

The next summer I had a job with the city directory. I went into a small business where the boyfriend sat with his wife of many years. If he recognized me, he didn't let on. I left as soon as I could, wondering if my friend hadn't been afraid his mom's boyfriend's wife would have come into the restaurant and shot us all. You can never be too careful when it comes to deceitful men (and, yes, dog, women too).

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Then, the person who introduced them to start with let it drop that his "wife" was a real witch. HUH?!!!! They weren't even separated. He had kids, the whole thing.

I would be more concerned with this 'friend'.

You're on the money there, meany. I am also a little "suspicious" of the fact she's dating one of the guys friends - wonder if he's married, too?

If she is dating a friend, she would know the marital staus of both. She either doesn't care or decided to play a very sick joke on your friend. It would be time to say goodbye and good riddance to both.

Again, right you are.

This woman (the friend) is beautiful - tall, slender, blonde, looks like a model - wonderful nurse, funny, sweet. I've not seen the guy, but surely she can do better. The other one, well, not so good.

Maybe she was using the first one as "bait"?

At any rate, if you're over 35, I guess you have to be running with your eyes closed to not catch the signs. The younger girls have yet to learn that lesson, I guess.

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Originally posted by dogsoldier0513:
How much time did he spend looking at his watch when he was with her? Was he 'protective' of his cell phone? Did he have a 'cheater mark' where his wedding band should have been?

LOTS of guys I work with dont wear a wedding ring. Some say its because of work, they might get it caught on something....???LOL anyway. And alot of girls and guys will be married and spend the night away from home. See, thats where as the wife, I would have figured something was up. If I am married, no reason for my husband to spend the night away from home unless its work and then there are tell tell signs.

well, i know a guy who has no left ring finger because he got it caught while descending a ladder and peeled the finger off. so that can be a valid reason.

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But one has to wonder if she just saw what she wanted to see.

When we want something bad enough, we humans have a near infinite capacity to fool ourselves, ya know?

How much you wanna bet your friend is saying to herself, "I shoulda listened to my instincts."

How much you wanna bet my friend is listening to me say, "you shoulda listened to your instincts"?