Well, I guess that settles that....

I'm thinking of you dogsoldier. I hope you get that good news soon.

Sorry about that, DS. And I don’t mean to trivialize what you’re going through by that brief comment. Something very similar happened to someone I know. Difference is, he had it coming.

Long as you are connected to your daughter, the good news you seek will come in due time.

My ex sounds like your ex. My daughter & I now share a very special relationship. She named my grandson after her husband’s and my side of the families. I doubt she will ever name any child after her mother.

Hang in there.

I'm sorry about that. Maybe you and her new husband can go out to a nice dinner or something instead.

Hoping that you have GOOD NEWS soon!

Her mom has also forbidden my parents from attending the wedding of the only grand-daughter they will ever have, as well.

Sorry for the tough time you are going through.Just happy you are showing support for your daughter.Stay connected their,as there will always be that connection that no one can break.you will be in our thoughts.

be thankful you're not still married to such a spiteful person...

Awww, I am so very sorry you are going through this!!!

Maybe she has plans to actually visit you after the wedding to try to make up for it, I sure hope so because I know that someday she is going to regret this decision,

I don't WANT her to have any regrets. I don't WANT her to be angry at her mom. And I don't want her to be angry at HERSELF...ever.

You know what bothers me most? The fact that someone her mom married 5 months after our divorce...is walking MY LITTLE GIRL down the aisle.

Hey dog.. I think you need this

((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))

sorry to hear you are going through this, will keep you & your daughter in my prayers. Yes be glad you got rid of the ex!

Mr. Dog, Don't sweat it. It is a bitter pill to swallow. I have been there, done that and have the dam* Tee shirt. Good thing is, now the kids dumped her and realized what had happened and we are a big happy group with lots of Grandkids and lots of fun. It does not not take long to replace old feelings with beautiful Memories.

I cannot imagine a parent (especially a MOTHER) setting out to ruin her daughter's wedding like that! Shame on your ex-wife! But you know, I can't see asking my step-father to walk me down the aisle if my father were still around to do it. Has your ex-wife always had so much control over your daughter? I'd want both of my parents to be at my wedding (and all my grandparents) and anyone who didn't like it could stay home!! Hopefully your daughter will put her foot down and stop allowing your ex-wife to control who does and does not attend the wedding. Whose special day is this anyway??

God bless you and I hope this all works out!

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Originally posted by T S C:
I cannot imagine a parent (especially a MOTHER) setting out to ruin her daughter's wedding like that! Shame on your ex-wife! But you know, I can't see asking my step-father to walk me down the aisle if my father were still around to do it. Has your ex-wife always had so much control over your daughter? I'd want both of my parents to be at my wedding (and all my grandparents) and anyone who didn't like it could stay home!! Hopefully your daughter will put her foot down and stop allowing your ex-wife to control who does and does not attend the wedding. Whose special day is this anyway??

God bless you and I hope this all works out!

I agree with TSC. Your daughter needs to stand on her own two feet. Unless your wife is footing the bill for the event, she really shouldn't have any say in it. And if she is footing the bill, your daughter should not be letting her hold her wedding hostage!

Sorry you are having to go through this.

That's so sad.. for you & your daughter.

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I don't WANT her to have any regrets. I don't WANT her to be angry at her mom. And I don't want her to be angry at HERSELF...ever.

You know what bothers me most? The fact that someone her mom married 5 months after our divorce...is walking MY LITTLE GIRL down the aisle.

Sweetie, just be glad he was good enough to her for her to want him to walk her down the aisle. It would've been far worse if he'd not be good to her and you couldn't have done anything.

I promise you, as one who has been there, done that, this will backfire on the hussy. The kids grow up quickly after they are married. They don't have to depend on mama for stuff. You'll see a big change soon.

I am sorry DS.

My father and I don't have a good relationship, (this due really to him) but I could never imagine him not having had a part of my wedding no matter what. He didn't walk me down the aisle though, but still, I don't see why your daughter doesn't put her foot down and refuse letting her mother say no to you.

Have you talked to your daughter first hand and (without letting her know other people have told you) seen what she had to say about her wedding? I think if possible, you should do that. At very least, she should be the one to tell you whether she wants you there or not, not have everyone else do it (maybe even for her).

This is tough, but I wish you all the best. I hope that your daughter one day wakes up and realizes what her mother and uncle are doing. Your parent's shouldn't be left out either.

This is so sad. I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers. I hope that maybe something can be worked out so that you can attend. My thoughts to you hun.

~Amanda

D.S...
All I can do is just shake my head at an adult that is suppose to be thinking of her daughter,s day...not revenge for things between your ex and yourself...
In my mind you have two immature people here...your ex who is acting like a 14 year teenager...and a daughter who does not have the maturity to get married...allowing one parent to use her wedding as a weapon against another shows lack of strength to control her life...
I predict your ex will destroy her marriage within the year...
It is your daughter that needs to re-think things through and grow up...this is not throwing rocks at your daughter...just making an observation..
You have no control over it...you are doing the right thing...Keep your head high ...your daughter will be grateful to you ....but I assure you she will never forget what pressure her mother has put her under on her wedding day...

From what my ex-BIL has told me, my EX is refusing to help with the wedding. I've also learned that my ex-MIL actually ADORES the guy my daughter wants to marry and appears more like her 'old self' in his company. But hey...she adored ME, too!

From what my ex-BIL tells me, my daughter and her new husband will reside in Arkansas, 1 state and several hours away from her mom, making it more difficult to exert any control over her.

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Originally posted by T S C:
I cannot imagine a parent (especially a MOTHER) setting out to ruin her daughter's wedding like that! Shame on your ex-wife! But you know, I can't see asking my step-father to walk me down the aisle if my father were still around to do it. Has your ex-wife always had so much control over your daughter? I'd want both of my parents to be at my wedding (and all my grandparents) and anyone who didn't like it could stay home!! Hopefully your daughter will put her foot down and stop allowing your ex-wife to control who does and does not attend the wedding. Whose special day is this anyway??

God bless you and I hope this all works out!

dog, really read TSC's reply, THAT is why I said your daughter would regret it someday, NOT because you don't WANT her to, it will just happen naturally, sad but true.

You already know that all of us have regrets in one thing or another.

Someday your daughter will realize just the HUGE effect that her very own Mother had on what is supposed to be the 'best day of her life' and even though you are taking the selfless side, she will be extremely mad and hurt.

You, my friend, will be the one she picks to help her pick up the pieces, and I KNOW you will be there for her then!!

Again, I am so very sorry this is happening, it just is NOT right.