What kind of people do you like to socialize with?

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Originally posted by _Joy_:
What kind of people do you like to socialize with?

Honesty or someone I can trust is #1.

Would you socialize with someone above your class or lower or would you socialize outside of your class?

Sure.

Do you look for people that think like you or does it matter?

Doesn't matter.

What Kind of Intelligence do you think you'll need to socialize outside your class?

Mmm, I guess in order to converse with "intellectuals" it is helpful to keep up with what's going on the world and continuing to educate yourself. However, you can find something in common with just about anybody & have a discussion.

Do you think you could fit into any class of folks and be excepted?

I'm not sure. If there is a group that do not accept those that believe differently than them, then probably not. I'm not changing to fit in.

If you were new to shoals and you were not a church goer where would you and spouse go to meet people and make friends?

As I met people through work & being involved in the community, I'd find people that I get along well with & invite them out to eat or for coffee. Please keep in mind I tend to have meaningful conversations with complete strangers...haha. That may be a woman thing.

Some people will not socialize with smokers and people who drink. What is your thoughts on this?

I think that's silly & their loss. You might miss the opportunity to know a really wonderful person.

Do you and spouse have lots of friends a few or none?

We have lots of friends, but few close friends, especially my husband. He's a private man & does not confide easily. I'm an open book. I will say that true and trustworthy friends are rare. If you have them, cherish this extremely precious gift.

Do you socialize with only family? If yes Why?

No, but I enjoy time with family very much. They are a blessing. Also, my sister knows my whole past. When I talk to her, it's with joint knowledge I can't have with others, even my husband.

When people see you coming are they glad to see you or dread you?

Wouldn't you need to ask them? I hope they are glad to see me. I'd hate to know I'm a burr in anyone's butt.

Do you get phone calls often from people who know you? Do people come to see you? Do you go to see them?

Yes, yes and yes but not all the time. I actually prefer to talk to people face to face. This doesn't count forums of course - I love the written word & having time to think before you speak.

If someone ask you what is the key to meeting people and making friends what would you tell them?

It's cliche' but true...just be yourself and be true to who you are. If you have to change in order to hang out with someone, that's not a real relationship. It's artificial - who would want that?

How do you judge someone as to if you like someone or not or if you want to around that person?

If I repeatedly walk away from someone feeling bad or less, that's a good indication it will lead to an unhealthy relationship. Also, I don't do fake, hate fake - yuck, yuck, yuck!

Do you think you are better than anyone? If so how high do you stick your nose?

No. I remember where I came from and how many times I fall on my face. Everyone has a set of strengths & a set of weaknesses. Nobody is better than anybody else.

We all may learn something from this topic who knows.

Thanks, JJ. NEXT!

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Originally posted by NashBama:
I hang out with anyone who is smart enough to carry on a good conversation over a few beers. Plain and simple.

Money, education, background, race, religion, so on and so forth is all irrelavant.

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Originally posted by earthmomma:
NOBODY on earth can fit into into any class and be excepted. Play with it!!!

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Originally posted by DeepFat:
What do you mean class? We are all Americans. I don't care what anyone does to make an honest living, nor how much money he makes, nor his pedigree.

I prefer people who speak their minds, agree or disagree. I can handle it, and once in a while I learn something.

I detest ignorance, especially deliberate ignorance. Otherwise, I can have a pleasant discussion with anyone.

All sorts of people seem to accept my company. I find the segregation of age more profound than any other difference among people.

I would not be "new" to the Shoals, but not having lived there recently, I don't know where I would socialize.

I smoke and drink. If people reject my company on those grounds, it's their loss. Adults that judgmental I can do without.

We have few, but good, friends.

Most people are glad to see me, others fear me. With reason.

I would say the key to making friends is to avoid dishonesty as much as possible. I have friends who disagree with me on every possible issue, but they respect my intelligence and honesty.

I prefer friends who are intelligent, confident in their thoughts, willing to change when offered better information, and kind. I have no use for mean people.

I am better than some. Yes, I admit, I'm better than a murderer, a rapist, a child molester, a fraud, a robber. There are those who are smarter, more productive, kinder, more effective than I. If that makes them better, so be it.

Good topic.

DF

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Originally posted by NashBama:
I hang out with anyone who is smart enough to carry on a good conversation over a few beers. Plain and simple.

Money, education, background, race, religion, so on and so forth is all irrelavant.

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Originally posted by DeepFat:
What do you mean class? We are all Americans. I don't care what anyone does to make an honest living, nor how much money he makes, nor his pedigree.

I prefer people who speak their minds, agree or disagree. I can handle it, and once in a while I learn something.

I detest ignorance, especially deliberate ignorance. Otherwise, I can have a pleasant discussion with anyone.

All sorts of people seem to accept my company. I find the segregation of age more profound than any other difference among people.

I would not be "new" to the Shoals, but not having lived there recently, I don't know where I would socialize.

I smoke and drink. If people reject my company on those grounds, it's their loss. Adults that judgmental I can do without.

We have few, but good, friends.

Most people are glad to see me, others fear me. With reason.

I would say the key to making friends is to avoid dishonesty as much as possible. I have friends who disagree with me on every possible issue, but they respect my intelligence and honesty.

I prefer friends who are intelligent, confident in their thoughts, willing to change when offered better information, and kind. I have no use for mean people.

I am better than some. Yes, I admit, I'm better than a murderer, a rapist, a child molester, a fraud, a robber. There are those who are smarter, more productive, kinder, more effective than I. If that makes them better, so be it.

Good topic.

DF

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Originally posted by JJPAUL:
T S C, I love your humor and there's nothing wrong with somebody buying a beer for someone. You also got me to thinking about how some people use people to get a free lunch so to speak. Once again, by no means am I referring to you. We have the so-called friends who use us for what we have, money, a private pool, and influence and they really could care less about you. What is your thinking on people who use people? Pretending to be a friend.

I'd like to add too, it's what you talk about, how you think, meaning thinking positive or negative. If you want to lose friends quickly, just start thinking negative. Most people do not want to be around people who talk about themselves all the time or whinning about every little ache they have, or bragging about what they have or about themselves. It's a big turn off to most people. If I'm around someone who is negative, it gets me down. And most people don't want to discuss politics and religion, very few.